Stop saying these phrases to your 8-year-old:
Just as there are some things that help in facilitating dealing with your child, there are some words that the mother may see as simple, but their effect sabotages the relationship, and affects badly, such as
- Why did you destroy things like this?
- You can't control yourself or control your emotions.
- You don't understand I'm older than you and I know better than you.
- what is your problem? This is not a problem at all.
- How many times do I tell you about this.
- No, you can't try again? You only had one chance and you squandered it?
- Why can't you be like this friend of yours? See how I did this? See how I became superior?
- Why are you so disorganized and what is this noise.
- Are you not good? And you always embarrass me in front of my friends and family.
- Embarrassing her in front of others, especially with her friends.
- Why don't you mind your own business and remember your important things.
- Belittling her clothing choices without her consciously knowing how tightly she is, for example, try this, but it works better on you and you look better in it.
- Don't destructive words... I have given up on you… your brothers are better than you… I will not expect anything joyful from you.
